A life coach is the latest professional on every celebrity’s speed dial, along with the PA, personal trainer, stylist, psychic and nutritionist. Leonardo DiCaprio, Hugh Jackman and even Chuck Liddell have all credited at least part of their success to using one.

But us ‘regular’ folk too can experience the same pain and emotions as an A-list actor or MMA fighter (okay, maybe not the same pain as an MMA fighter but you get the idea).

Life coaching can be effective in many situations, for example in turning a side hustle into a career, fulfilling fitness potential, finding personal peace, or just for calling straight-up bullshit on some of the worst advice out there. Which is exactly what we asked six leading coaches to do.

The Worst Advice I Have Ever Heard

“Stress is good for you; you perform better under stress.”

What You Should Do

“Pressure is good for you. Stress is not. Prolonged stress actually causes damage to your DNA as well as physical and mental health. Parts of the brain shut down when stressed, which then affects your ability to make decisions and spot errors. Pressure is short term, and you remain resourceful. Recognise the difference.” – Becki Houlston

The Worst Advice I Have Ever Heard

“Let it go, confrontation it is not worth the hassle.”

What You Should Do

“Never let someone make you feel like you are not valued. Confrontation does not need to be aggressive or highly emotional. If at work, arrange a meeting with the person and go fully prepared with examples to state your case clearly and with real solutions.” – Kate Evans

Confrontation

The Worst Advice I Have Ever Heard

“Stay in a safe job instead of launching your own business.”

What You Should Do

“Listen to your gut and go for it, but mitigate against the risk. If changing industries, keep a couple of smaller projects going to pay the bills while building the new business before taking it on full time.” – Jo Emerson

The Worst Advice I Have Ever Heard

“Get a sensible job and give up on wild dreams.”

What You Should Do

“Spend time with people who have created an income from their dream, and limit your time around people who try to take you away from yours. With determination, belief and perseverance, anything is possible. The people that believe that you have to work hard in a job you don’t like to survive have simply not yet found another way.” – Maria Hocking

Boring Job

The Worst Advice I Have Ever Heard

“Just forget her/him.”

What You Should Do

“A broken-hearted man’s friends will (with the best of intentions) want to distract him from his pain, be it with drink, drugs, sport, adventure, strip clubs or casual flings. If you really want to get over heartache, you must firstly allow yourself to feel it. In failing to do this, we simply carry our heartbreak like excess baggage to our next relationship.” – Hilda Burke

The Worst Advice I Have Ever Heard

“Put some space between the two you as quickly as possible.” [When in a relationship and the other person starts getting emotional.]

What You Should Do

“When someone becomes emotional and expresses their feelings to you it does not mean that they want you to ‘fix’ a problem. All they want is to be heard, so listen with full attention. They only really want you to show that you respect their feelings. Be an attentive listener and notice how the atmosphere will immediately lighten.” – Lynda Field

Listening to problems