I sympathise Nath. I think you need to get to the root of the issues though, not just the symptoms, if that makes sense.
If it is a confidence thing, then why is that? Your own appearance? No longer want to stand out? Depression even? The latter has been an issue for me, and can affect almost every aspect of your life.
That's why it's so important to get to the root of it - what you do as a result will be drastically different. The solution could be anything from going to the gym, through to going on anti-depressants, you know what I mean?
I do occasionally think that the whole style game is inherently narcissitic and shallow, and if I was a good person then I wouldn't be interested in how I look. But I usually find some way of rationalising it to myself!
Good luck anyway man - hope you figure it out.
The important thing - be you.