I apologise if this offends, confuses, or causes widespread panic and re-evaluations of life. It is late. When does the brain function best? When you need to urinate apparently. I don't need to right now.
Ok, when the forums where first announced, I remember posting a comment on an article saying something along the lines of "I hope it doesn't turn out like the (I'll keep them anonymous).com forums. They have a What are you wearing? thread and they all seem to wear the same sort of style. Uniqlo shirts, dark blue APC Jeans, Nike high tops and varsity jackets."
I've just come to say, I believe the same thing may be beginning to appear here.
I will explain the nature of the comment.
When I lurked over at the ******** forums, I would regularly read their "What are you wearing?" thread for inspiration in branching out my style. It became apparent over a while, that the board members who posted often seemed to adopt a particular 'style' of outfit they deemed "dapper". This style was what they all seemed to strive for in their daily outfits. Nothing changed. It involved pretty much what I stated above. They would all post pictures of themselves wearing the same outfit, just in different colours, and praise each other for it.
I felt I was missing something. There was something about fashion and style I just wasn't getting. You get the monthly fashion trends for all the people who need to be told what looks good, but I never thought it was the same for people who put more thought into what they bought.
Then I found Fashionbeans. Life saviour. Exactly what I was looking for, a bunch of guys who knew what they were talking about and knew exactly what style actually meant.
But after looking around these forums, I feel... I don't know yet. I read through pages of the "What are you wearing" thread here, and it seems apparent there is a sort of style that has developed. All I'll say is that, there may be an abundance of tan brogues.
Don't get me wrong, brogues are wonderful shoes. But I can't help but feel that the reason people are wearing them is because a website told them to. Not because they look good. I'll give you an example. 2 years ago I bought a pair of cream chinos. My friends got their jokes in and told me they'd never wear something like that. Fast forward to today, and every guy on the street is wearing them. I'm actually sitting in them right now trying to figure out the last time I wore them out. I don't feel right in them anymore because I don't feel like myself. I feel like it's not me shining through the outfit, it's everyone else wearing them.
Yes, I came to Fashionbeans for tips and advice on clothes. But I didn't come for a quick fix. I came so I could greaten my knowledge of how outfits could be put together, so I could develop my own particular style. I feel a lot of people came here and seen the articles of what the writers of Fashionbeans currently acknowledge, and went out and bought it.
Where is the originality in all of it? Where is the personal growth? Is this it? High tops are in for the mainstream crowd but Brogues are in for us? What happens in a couple of years? Brogues get over done and we shun them just because they aren't popular in our group anymore?
I feel that personal style perhaps isn't shining greatly enough in the forum as much as I'd hoped. Or everyone has a skewed version of originality. Or I do. Perhaps I'm just extremely grumpy and picky and hate everyone and everything. Though I really feel that originality isn't being strived for, and that there is a type of style being created, the Fashionbeans style. The Fashionbeans Man.
I've always said that the reason I love taking an interest into what I wear, is that your outfit is a silent expression of you.
YOU. Not what the internet expresses. Not what David Beckham expresses. Not what the "What are you wearing" thread expresses.
It's not what you wear, but how you make what you wear, you.
If there is one thing I've picked up over these past couple of years about style that I truly believe, it's that you aren't supposed to like someone else's.
I don't mean that everyone's style should suck compared to yours. I mean that if you truly have developed your own preferences in fashion, regardless of what anyone else thinks, then you couldn't see yourself in someone else's shoes so to speak. They may have fantastic style, one that perfectly expresses their personality and overall presence. But it's not you. It's them. You have your own way you do things that your personality shines through. That person will similarly not be able to see themselves in your shoes, as it is you, not them.
Anybody can wear a pair of brogues. Nobody can wear your pair.
I guess that's all I want to say.
Being as late as it is, I'm not so sure if I meant everything I said here or I just typed whatever was in my head because I had to get this out.
A late night rambling is always good for the soul. But then again, probably not.
Merry Christmas and all that.
I still don't really need to pee that much.