Life can be tough. Whether you’re drowning in arrears or drowning in tears over the one that got away, sometimes all you need is a helping hand, a few words of wisdom to aid you in navigating your way out of the doldrums and towards success.
Which is why we’ve compiled some golden advice – on work, love and life in general – from a few good men. Consider it a pep talk. Read it. Bookmark it. Live your life by it.
“If something stands between you and your success, move it. Never be denied.”
Dwayne ‘The Rock’ Johnson
It’s pretty easy for a 6’5″, 260lb human tank to impart advice on obliterating obstacles. But The Rock’s advice stands nonetheless: double down on your efforts and overcome. Blast through road blocks. (Not literally, though.)
“What you are thinking about, you are becoming.”
Muhammad Ali, Esquire
And who are we to argue with “The Greatest”? Widely regarded as one of the best heavyweight boxers in the history of the sport, Ali knows a thing or two about self-visualisation. Here, he reminds us that positive mental attitude (PMA) is the secret to perfecting your punch. Both literally and metaphorically.
“Some people should never get married. Not everyone has that combination of dependency. You’re leaning on somebody, and the desire to support somebody else, it just doesn’t exist in some people.”
Arthur Miller, Esquire
Known for his seminal plays Death of a Salesman and The Crucible, Arthur Miller is also known as the man who cheated on Marilyn Monroe. No, we don’t get it either.
Still, Miller’s got a point – conventional arrangements aren’t one-size-fits-all. And it is invariably best to check yourself – as another wise man once said – before you wreck yourself. And your marriage.
“The secret to a happy marriage? Do whatever your wife tells you. ‘Yes, dear.’ And breathe.”
He’s not wrong.
“You have to keep the fights clean and the sex dirty.”
Kevin Bacon, The Times
“People get in fights because they don’t communicate, because you don’t want to hurt the other person. If you do want to hurt the other person, then shame on you – you’re an asshole.
“My wife and I do not argue. We communicate. We talk. But we’ve never fought in our entire relationship.”
Aaron Paul, ELLE
Taking relationship advice from the man who played meth-fuelled Cap’n Cook might seem counterproductive – but Aaron Paul knows what’s up. (yo.) When emotions run high, try some old-fashioned talking therapy.
“Yoga is the best thing for your sex life. It keeps you limber in all kinds of ways. It teaches you to love your body and your partner’s body. But more than anything, it keeps your mind liquid, and nothing’s sexier than that.”
Woody Harrelson, Playboy
“To begin with, I fought racism, then sexism, now I’m fighting ageism. One defines oneself in one’s own terms. If you let society and your peers define who you are, you’re the less for it.”
Hugh Hefner, TIME
The Heff, although not everyone’s idea of a women’s rights activist, was an advocate for birth control rights at a time when it wasn’t fashionable, and has also pinned his colours to the mast on the subject of gay rights, publishing Charles Beaumont’s The Crooked Man – a dystopian short story of a world where heterosexuality is stigmatised in the way that homosexuality is today – in Playboy back in 1955.
Take it from the man who, at 89 years of age, reportedly dates seven women at any one time: haters gon’ hate.
“Respect your efforts, respect yourself. Self-respect leads to self-discipline. When you have both firmly under your belt, that’s real power.”
If it worked for this five-time Oscar winner, it’ll probably work for you.
“The truth is that any amount of trickery of wearing cool shirts with rad designs or using pick-up lines, or any of this bullshit like trying to neg girls, isn’t going to matter. It won’t pay off when she realises that you’re full of shit.”
Chris Pratt, GQ
We called it. People’s Sexiest Man Alive finalist Pratt knows full well that, when it comes to dating, it’s less about The Game, more about working on yours.
“‘May the Force be with you’ is charming but it’s not important. What’s important is that you become the Force – for yourself and perhaps for other people.”
Harrison Ford, Reader’s Digest
For those of us who only stand a chance of understanding life by seeing it through the prism of Star Wars, words to live your life by these are.
“The worst thing I can be is the same as everybody else. I hate that.”
Born to strict Roman Catholic parents in a society not so hot on non-conformism, Schwarzenegger has previously talked of how he was beaten at the hands of what he called his archetypal German-Austrian father. It was an experience which, he’s said, spurred him on to value anything but the ordinary.
In the process of upending convention, Arnie’s won Mr. Universe four times and Mr. Olympia seven times. And also made some very, very questionable films.
“I don’t worry about any other players. I’ve always concentrated on what my job is more than anything, more than how good the other team is, no matter who the opponent is – even off the field. If you do your job, then there’s nothing else.”
David Beckham, Men’s Health
With a beautiful wife, four multi-talented children, and a net worth north of half a billion pounds, Becks is living proof of the benefits of keeping your eye on the prize.
“You have a responsibility to your work, to your choices. Once you get to a certain level of quality and commitment, you don’t want to go back and make Booty Call 7.”
You really, really don’t.
“I can tell a young person where the mines are, but he’s probably going to step on them anyway.”
Burt Reynolds, Esquire
Make some mistakes. F*ck some sh*t up. Because how else are you going to learn?
And so concludes our guide to living your best life.
Have any of these men’s words made an impact? Or perhaps you have some advice to impart yourself?
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